Hi Chris,
I’ve realised that I’m not really happy. I have a good job and plenty of money, so why can’t I be happy as well?
Not Really
Chris says,
Hi, Not Really!
It’s because material goals like wealth and possessions are far less satisfying than physical and emotional intimacy. People, not things, are the real key to happiness.
So, make being in a good relationship your highest priority. Maintain good family ties. Learn how to make new friends.
Spend your money on experiences, not things. New stuff only makes you feel good briefly. But experiences, especially with those you love, create memories that last a lifetime.
Smile a lot. Smiling works both ways, so the more you smile, the happier you’ll feel. And people who smile more have more social support and are more likely to be happily married.
Be nice to others, whether it’s holding a door open or paying for a friend’s snack. It won’t only put a smile on their faces but on yours too.
Don’t sweat the small problems in life. Instead, focus on your latest favourite song, the birds singing, your friend’s smile. Concentrate on what goes right, much more than what goes wrong.
Set yourself challenging goals and really work to achieve them. They’ll satisfy you far more than you can imagine. And be happy about other people’s successes. It’s all too easy to be envious.
Live in the moment and stop worrying about the future or past failures. Learn from your mistakes, of course and do plan for the future. But stay immersed in the moment as much as possible. Let go of things you can’t control and focus on what you can, like your attitudes and how you treat others.
Learn to accept yourself just as you are. Accept your weaknesses and focus on building your strengths.
Learn how to calm down when something stresses you out, maybe by taking a break, exercising, or listening to music.
Above all, make time for the people in your life and the things you love doing. Whatever they are, do more of them!
All the best,
Chris
