Have you ever wondered why some people end up dating their friends’ ex-partners? While it may seem like an obvious no-go for many, others don’t see a problem with it.
But for media personality Amina Abdir, this kind of behaviour is a clear sign of betrayal—and she’s not sugar-coating her opinion.
Speaking candidly on her TikTok page, the celebrated TV host addressed a topic that continues to divide opinion: romantic relationships that involve a friend’s former partner.
Amina expressed strong disapproval, calling it “disgusting” and likening it to a violation of trust and boundaries.
“What do you mean—of all the billions of people on this planet, you choose one of your friend’s or sister’s partners?” she asked incredulously.
According to Amina, people who cross that line often lack respect, not just for the friend, but for the relationship they once supported from the sidelines.
She warned that such individuals may have harboured feelings all along, and might even have encouraged breakups to make their own moves.
“Some people will use you as a stepping stone to get where they want to be,” she noted. “They’ll hype up minor disagreements just to push you apart.”
She stressed that emotional boundaries are essential, and questioned why a close friend would even need direct contact with your partner.
“Why does she have your partner’s number?” she asked pointedly, suggesting that such overfamiliarity often signals blurred lines.
Amina didn’t hold back in her judgment of those who engage in relationships with their friends’ former partners, especially those who do so under the guise of “love conquers all.”
“I will forever judge girls who date their friend’s ex-husbands or boyfriends,” she stated firmly. “It’s a selfish and mean-spirited act.”
Her message was clear: loyalty and respect should take precedence over fleeting emotions. She advised viewers to cut ties with friends who lack honesty and integrity, and to always maintain strong personal boundaries.
The video quickly went viral, sparking widespread debate online. While a few argued that love can’t be helped, the majority supported Amina’s stance, calling such behaviour unethical and disloyal. Many echoed her view that even flirting with a friend’s partner is unacceptable.
BY Gladys mutua
