- If you are looking for someone to marry who would want to date a stingy person knowingly?
- Do not start up a business with your boyfriend and especially without a contract written down.
In modern-day society it is not a wonder to find young women playing the roles of wives to men they are not married to.
For some it is an act of love, for others, it is to mark their territories and prove they are capable of being wives.
Sadly nothing can keep a man who does not need to be kept.
According to motivational speaker Sam West here arethings you shouldn’t do for a man who hasn’t married you.
No kids before marriage
‘Accidents’ happen, but according to Sam you should not sire kids with just anyone, your womb should be taken care of.
Instead, he advises one to make sure they are in a serious committed relationship/marriage before introducing kids.
Cases of sexual assault are exempted.
Don’t take the role of a wife before marriage.
This is where most women fail, I included.
Back in the day before I learned my lessons from these sons of Jezebel I would clean and cook.
But that changed when I realized a man cannot pay for something he is already getting for free.
I no longer do that, unless it is out of free will.
Wifey duties can include visiting the in-laws, shopping for them etc.
Do not introduce a partner you are not sure of to your parents.
In Kanairo most people say ‘Ni kuoga na kurudi soko.’
But that does not mean it is OK to go parading every man you are dating to your parents.
Wait until you are sure about the man you are dating, andonly introduce him to your parents if he has assured you a future with them.
Do not be stingy during the dating season.
Sam says while it is paramount to save it is also important not to be stingy.
When trying to woo a woman use wisdom do not overspend, but do not be stingy.
There is nothing as draining as dating a stingy partner.
Plus if you are looking for someone to marry who would want to date a stingy person knowingly?
Life is to be lived,tumia pesa ikuzoee.
Do not move in
Once a man starts living with you, he sets aside any plans of officially wedding you.
Why would he when he is getting his food cooked, clothes washed, and his body serviced all for free?
Do not start a business with someone you are not married to
The last thing you should not do before marriage is to set up a business together.
If you must then have a lawyer jot down a contract, that way it will be easier to follow up in case things do not work out.
by peninah njoki
