Kerry Martin, Joyce Maina, and Kwambox recently tackled common dating complaints on their podcast, The Boxpod Podcast.
Known for covering a wide range of topics from current affairs to trends, news, and entertainment, the trio dived into the complexities of modern dating.
Kerry Martin: “I’m in My Flirting Era”
Kerry admitted that he’s currently in his “flirting era” and prefers phone calls over texting when it comes to wooing someone.
“Do you know how far you can go with a conversation if you’re on the phone instead of texting?”
He added that flirting over the phone is much more effective.
“Phone calls are on another level. So, what’s better—flirting on the phone or via text? Phone, obviously.”
Joyce, amused by his confidence, playfully called him “Mr. Mistari” (Mr. Pickup Lines).
Kerry, however, denied being a smooth talker, saying:
“Sina mistari (I don’t have pickup lines). Texting is lies. Flirting is spot on. I can tell what you’re thinking immediately. If I ask you a question and you start stammering, I know you’re lying.”
And if things get awkward?
“And then if kiki umana (things get tough), flight mode!”
Still, he acknowledged that texting is useful in the early stages, even though it leaves evidence that could later be used against you.
Kwambox: “Dating is Like Squid Game”
Kwambox then pointed out one of the biggest issues with dating today:
“You guys lie for short wins.”
She argued that many relationships barely make it past five months before falling apart. Comparing modern dating to Netflix’s Squid Game, she explained:
“Dating is like Squid Game. Think about it—you see someone and think, ‘This person has contestant vibes.’ But you don’t know what they’re actually capable of. I’m not single because I want to be.”
Joyce and Kerry burst into laughter at her analogy, as she admitted that the mental effort required to date makes her give up quickly.
Common Dating Struggles
The group highlighted key frustrations in dating, including:
Dry conversations
Ghosting
Poor communication
Lack of commitment
According to damesthatknow.com, some of the most common complaints include:
Finding a guy who’s actually ready for a relationship (not hung up on an ex or dealing with trust issues).
Men who just “go with the flow” instead of dating with clear intentions.
Lack of emotional maturity—some men act like they’re still 12 years old.
Fake “nice guys” who expect something in return and turn aggressive when they don’t get it.
Struggles with personality differences in relationships.
Fear of commitment, whether it’s exclusivity or marriage.
Ghosting culture—why can’t people just be upfront and say it’s over?
Poor communication skills that make dating feel like a guessing game.
Feeling unappreciated or disrespected in relationships.
The “baddie” phenomenon—it seems men only want flashy, Instagram-worthy women, leaving smart, quality women overlooked.
“Dating Is the Pits”
At the end of the discussion, the group summed it up perfectly:
“We are a precautionary tale. Learn from us or just share your experiences—because dating is the pits!”
by MAUREEN WARUINGE
