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Anonymous wrote: “Makosa imefanyika! I work for a PR firm hapa Westlands and manze my HOD ako na ball yangu by mistake (a mistake happened! I work in a PR firm in Westlands and I impregnated my HOD)…am only 23 years old, and she is 32. Am not ready to be a father!” .Allan Lawrence is a counselling psychologist, relationship coach and author. He is a sought-after conference speaker both locally and globally.
Allan runs runs a relationship hub called The Love Banquet that aims at redefining relationships. Choices have consequences Relationship expert Allan Lawrence listed four things the man should do, including owning up to his mistake. “There’s no mistake there; he clearly knew unprotected intercourse would result in pregnancy, so if you are not ready for the results of anything, kindly don’t indulge. This is true for everyone: let’s exercise sexual discipline to avoid such messes in future.
Anyway for the young lad you got to understand that what you think is the worst it is actually not the worst. Open a channel of communication with the lady in question so that you weigh the available options also it will help you to avoid blackmail,” he shared. He advised the man to have a conversation with his HOD and seek counselling services. “Secondly, own it up.. this will help you with closure on how to deal with it; otherwise, you will keep living in denial, which will leave you in much trauma and pain.
Let him Seek Support and Counseling: This is a big decision & it’s okay to seek guidance from a counsellor, trusted mentor, or close family member to help him navigate his options and make an informed choice. Last but not least he should speak openly and respectfully with his HOD about the situation. Both need to discuss how they want to proceed and what their options are. Honesty is essential, considering they have their work on the line,” he advised.
by Caren Nyota