Janet Mbugua: Why I reached out to my ex for closure

 

Renowned media personality, author, and human rights activist Janet Mbugua has excited netizens after she shared a story of how a popular film led to her reaching out to an old flame in hopes of understanding why things ended.

On her YouTube channel, Janet recalled how she reached out to her high school sweetheart after watching 'Half-Life', a movie whose storyline strongly resonated with her, leaving her with a multitude of 'what ifs' that she needed answered.

So she did what any person who has ever truly loved would do... she called him.

"Can I tell you what I did after watching the movie? I called someone. The movie makes people remember that someone, I did an entire rewind of somebody who was kinda together in high school.

At every juncture of my life, he was there and at the very bare minimum, he's my friend. I called him and I was like hey why do you think we never ended up together? First I put a disclaimer and said I wanted to ask something but it should not feel offensive or confusing am just curious to know why," the mother of 2 narrated.

She went on to add that after a deep conversation with her ex-boyfriend things were clearer to her and she now understood why the ship sunk better.

Janet Mbugua

"It came down to maybe we were not just mature enough or maybe you wanted it more or I wanted it more than you did. Even though we had times when we were technically together somebody would just step down that I was too busy, or not ready or this was too much for me. And now here you are. You are both grown," the former news anchor added.

Finishing up she noted that the elephant in the room was how to move forward after such a deep conversation which had rekindled some flames within them.

"After that conversation, he was like how do you feel now? And I was like I mean I feel fine. Then we were like is this closure because we are now very good friends? And the thing is, 'is it something that you can pursue or do you leave it as it is?' The way it is right now is more like we can still get together, spend time, talk about work, and collaborate without feeling you know..."

Speaking about closure and why it is sometimes important to pursue it, Janet Mbugua said; "The bottom line is sometimes you have to think of the closure as something you have to make peace with. You have to find your own. Sometimes a situation and a person you get to control how you react.

So you're going to say I need closure and so for instance I'm gonna tell this guy like I know we have liked each other for a long time but I think we should just remain friends, is this something you think we can do?"

BY  HANNIE PETRA