Anonymous wrote: Hello parents. I have a teenage son whom I am not his biological father. It has been quite a journey, but we weather through it. Recently, my son said he wanted to meet his biological dad. I do not know how I felt. I never thought it would come to this, but he asked to see his biological father. Should I let the mum introduce him to his father? I do not want to sound insensitive or selfish because anything could happen. I have the fear of the unknown. Should I stand in his way and give excuses, or let his wish come to pass and his dream fulfilled? A man with glasses and a white shirt relaxes with a young boy in a white shirt. Jane Murimi Mugo is a qualified relationship and marriage expert with over 12 years of experience in counselling. She is a published author of Caged and is working on another mental health book. Speaking to TUKO.co.ke, Mugo noted blood was thicker than water and that it would be wise for the man to let things be. “The reality is that as long as the boy starts asking questions, he is curious. If the stepfather does not allow him to see the boy, he will look for a way to meet him. By fire and thunder, if the parents stand in his way, he will ensure he finds out in his way,” she said. The fears could be endless, expert Mugo Mugo said she understood the stepdad’s fears, having had similar conversations with stepfathers and stepchildren. “I know the stepdad fears the son may love his biological father more than him or may even want to remain with him. Maybe he fears being compared to the biological father. Perhaps he feels the boy will not love him when he meets the biological dad. The fears could be endless, but they could also go south. What if the boy’s expectations of his biological father are not fulfilled? What if he ends up being disappointed? What if he gets rejected? The fears could be positive or negative, but let the boy find out for himself and make the judgement for himself,” Mugo shared. Don’t try to change his mind, Mugo She also advised the biological mum and the stepfather to have a conversation with the boy to prepare him for any outcome. Mugo urged them to converse with the boy and equip him to prepare for the reunion’s outcome. “They should not try to change his mind or fill him with negative thoughts. Let them be neutral and let the young man decide for himself. Let him remember they are still his parents regardless of the outcome and that he should not feel pressured to choose between them and his biological father,” she added. Disclaimer: Advice given in this article is general and is not intended to influence readers’ decisions about solving their familial issues. They should always seek professional advice that considers their circumstances before deciding.