I am an intern at a corporate company and I have been invited to a team dinner at a casual dining and bar place this month. I am the only woman on the guest list. I’d appreciate tips on what to wear and how to fit better among colleagues. This is my first office party and being the only intern and woman on the list just adds to the pressure.
You have earned the invite because you are a member of the team and not because you are a woman, so don’t overthink. Wear a decent, comfortable outfit so that you enjoy your evening. You will meet the same colleagues in the office after the party, so your behaviour should reflect the kind of person you are. Arrive on time and don’t overstay. The cue to leave should be determined by your supervisor. Don’t leave before them.
Do not overindulge or try a new alcoholic drink since you might be inebriated to a point where you make a fool of yourself. If you don’t take alcohol, don’t succumb to pressure to try for the first time. The outcome might be disastrous. Be wary of colleagues who flirt with you since they might be doing this under the influence of alcohol. They are not seeking a serious relationship, and this realisation might frustrate you later.
Check what your policy states on having a relationship with your colleagues. Don’t flirt and if you are genuinely interested in a relationship with a colleague, this is not the day to express your undying love for them. Look for a better opportunity when you are both sober and not in a crowd. This is also not the opportunity to tell off that colleague you find annoying. Don’t approach your boss for a pay rise or a job opportunity, they might make promises which will remain unfulfilled. Don’t stress about fitting into the conversation. You should walk around acknowledging your colleagues as you listen to the topics being discussed. Stick to the table where an interesting topic that you understand is being discussed. Alternatively, you can choose to listen and if the topic is too complex, ask a question confidently.
You will be interacting with senior colleagues who might influence your career in an informal environment. Prepare your ‘elevator speech’ before people get intoxicated. You can introduce yourself and indicate that you enjoy working for the company and the culture and leadership is great and would be interested in a long term engagement. Enjoy the party and bear in mind that it is an opportunity to unwind. BY DAILY NATION